3 most common wardrobe mistakes we all make.
Here you are: you have a full wardrobe, but nothing to wear. And it‘s not only today, but everyday you are struggling with this problem. This means one thing: your wardrobe doesn’t work and you need to do something right away. In over six years of practice I have analyzed and reviewed many different wardrobes, so today I wanted to tell you about the most common reasons why some wardrobes become non-functional and largely useless. More importantly, what you can do about it starting today.
1. My mother/sister/husband chooses clothes for me.
You can’t even imagine how often this phenomenon occurs among my clients. It’s always sad to look at such wardrobes, because I know in advance that half of the stuff is going to be thrown away.
To my question why they allow their relatives to picks their clothes for them, I often hear in response the following answers:
- I have a small child, so my mother/sister/husband picks clothes for me.
- I have no taste, so my mother/sister/husband who has excellent taste picks clothes for me.
- My mother/sister/husband gifts me clothes, and I am not comfortable refusing them or not wearing them.
If you have a small child and no time to go shopping, there is a great way to buy whatever you want without leaving home by simply using the magic power of the Internet. Don’t worry about the sizes. If something will not fit you well, you just send it back. That easy.
No need to ask anyone to pick up clothes for you. I’ve never seen that somebody’s relative or friend picked up something reasonable. Usually they choose what they like and would gladly wear themselves. In addition, they don’t always consider what will you wear it with and if what they had just bought will go together with other things from your wardrobe.
I had a client in a very similar situation. Her mother bought her so many things that her wardrobe seemed overloaded with clothes. She ended up confused and couldn’t figure out how to make beautiful sets out of them. My client is a tall and slim brunette with a short geometric haircut preferring a minimalistic style, architectural cuts, thick fabrics, deep dark colors that perfectly fit her personality. But there were actually only eight items in her closet that she picked herself. The rest was bought by her mother, who is a blue-eyed blonde with a curvy body shape and has a love for romantic bows and frills, gentle colors and soft fabrics. And that’s what she wore constantly while choosing for her daughter: silk blouses, lurex cardigans and fur coats with bell-sleeves. Exactly those things that had a limitless disharmony with my client’s personal taste. And all those clothes were expensive, so not wearing them after your mother tried so hard is not a nice thing to do. Of course, in the end we had to remove all those “romantic” pieces and start building a new wardrobe from scratch. A wardrobe that fit 100% with my client’s taste and aesthetic preferences.
Often I hear how husbands are also deeply involved in choosing clothes for their wives, because they have “better taste” and “they pick their own clothes perfectly.” Even if they are good at men’s fashion, it doesn’t mean that they are also well educated in the ladies’ department. Please. It’s a completely different world with completely different rules!
Try buying clothes for yourself and by yourself. Don’t be lazy and find time for shopping. Or at least do it online.
2. I buy almost everything at the same store.
Firstly, it’s so boring. You just limit yourself without good reason. But that’s not all, let me give you an example.
Once I’ve found in another client’s wardrobe about ten identical dresses of different – but wrong colors – that she purchased at different times, but all at the same shop. One ugly dress, ten times. When I asked how did it happened, she replied that she had no taste and always agreed to buy the items salespeople bring her. And those salespeople weren’t only bringing stuff, but also praised her relentlessly and so convincingly that she always went home with the purchase. They were just doing their jobs.
When you become a regular customer, salespeople clearly know your buying power and what they need to say to you so you use this power properly. Sales is their main task, that’s why they don’t really care what you buy and whether you look good wearing it, as long as the amount you pay for it brings them closer to the implementation of the monthly sales plan.
My advice is to simply go to different shops, don’t become friends with salespeople and don’t get fooled by too many compliments. Trust your internal voice and the reflection in the mirror. If the item that you are trying on is confusing you, just take it off and go to another store feeling no regrets.
3. I haven’t bought any new clothes for a long time, because I already have too many.
When the entire wardrobe is packed with stuff it’s very difficult to understand what kind of things can still be worn, and which have to go into a well-deserved retirement. Most of the time we just keep lots of weird pieces forever without wearing them and that is creating the false impression of an overflowing wardrobe. In different words, you see you have a lot, but in reality there is nothing to wear.
Here is the thing: clothes that serve you faithfully for many years don’t exist. Yes, there are some very high quality things that can hold 2-3 years of intense wearing, but this is more the exception rather than the rule.
Analyse and clean up your closet every season. Check everything for proper quality. You will definitely find some small holes, hooks, pellets, dirty patches inside or outside of a garment, yellowed collars and cuffs, broken-off heels, worn soles, etc. You really don’t need clothes that are no longer wearable. All of it must be discarded and removed from your wardrobe and be replaced with new and fresh sets that you will love and wear.
These are the most common mistakes that some of my clients do. I hope you’ll find these advices useful. If you’ve understood some of the bad habits that need resisting or quitting when putting together a wardrobe, then my job here is done. Next time we’ll look a bit into how to create good shopping habits that build a wardrobe you’ll want to wear.